There's One in Every Family

A few weeks ago, a young mom who was at her wits' end called me seeking advice on how to deal with some behavioral issues that she was having with her little girl. It seemed that no matter the disciplinary measures that she invoked, the child continued to exert her authority and dominance in the household. The mom was mentally exhausted and felt hopeless. After I listened to her vent for a while, I asked her a series of questions about herself and her family; specifically mother-daughter relationships. As she reflected back over the previous three generations, sure enough we were able to connect a pattern of broken family ties...specifically between mothers and daughters. I continued to ask more questions about those relationships and the one between her and her mother. It turns out that the young mom was dealing with her younger self through her daughter. How many times have we seen this scenario? Is her current situation with her daughter a case of sowing and reaping or, as the old folks like to say, payback for her rebellious behavior when she was a child?

No.

And I'm tired of hearing that narrative...so let's change it.

What I've learned through life, studying both the Scriptures and my family's cycles is that the enemy hates unity almost as much as he hates purpose. If he can create discord and strife within a family, he can stop purpose from being produced. When purpose is birthed, it destroys curses that have been passed on through previous generations. Satan doesn't want that to happen. Why does he care so much about cursers? Because if he can continue a curse cycle, he can deceive people into questioning the existence of Jesus and the reason for the cross; he can keep them yoked to bondage. It is through curses that families struggle with mess like poverty, rejection, cycles of abuse and broken marriages. It is also through curses that sicknesses such as diabetes and heart failure remain in a family's history. It is through the cross that they receive the deliverance that Jesus died for.

God knew beforehand the things that we would have to deal with in our earthly lifetime so He sent Jesus so that we may have access to abundant living. Jesus became cursed so that we don't have to be. Although we have been set free, that freedom is useless to us if we don't know 1) that it belongs to us and 2) what we've been set free of. The Curse Crusher in the family is the one whose eyes have been enlightened to the schemes that the enemy has used for years and years to keep the family in bondage. The Curse Crusher is the one who fights against all the odds that are stacked against them and wins because they have a 'don't quit, won't quit' mentality. The Curse Crusher is the one who despite being rejected reaches back to help those who ignorantly set themselves as enemies against him or her. Since the enemy knows who this designated person is, he begins to act against them as soon as they leave the womb...sometimes before. His objective is to create enmity between parent and child however he can. For instance, a mother rejects her child because the child bears physical characteristics of its' father whom the mother now hates. When the mother bites the bait that the enemy used to entrap her, she takes herself out of position to nurture and train up that child in accordance to God's purpose for it. The seed of rejection takes root and over time begins to produce fruit of rebellion which manifests itself in a cycle of bad behavior that will continue to pass on from parent to child until it is uprooted and destroyed. By the time that the Curse Crusher is enlightened to this, the enemy will have it fully activated in his/her lineage but it may not look exactly the same. For example, the Curse Crusher knows how deeply the wounds of parental rejection can penetrate so they vow to never reject their own; however, the enemy works his way in through the other parent, keeping the curse activated. So you see, it isn't a case of sowing and reaping bad behavior...it's a curse or cycle that needs to be exposed and stopped. The one in the family whom God chose for this assignment is not generally the quiet one; it's usually the one who goes against the grain and who has a resilient and dominant personality. Instead of listening to the enemy's lie that this child is out of control and that you can no longer deal with their behavior, give thanks to God for your Curse Crusher and ask Him to teach you to train her up to fight accordingly. It's what I had to do and it's what I encourage my daughter to do with her daughter. Patience, love and training in the Word is how we have reversed the curse in our lineage. You can do it too.

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